Im buying Mercedes cause my car doesn’t have a handle
No im not buying a Mercedes(you can relax sugar). But the words in the title was a start of a truly insightful conversation. But lemme explain anyways.
You see, i have a friend called lester. Currently, lester drives one of those Hyundai sports cars called the Hyundai coupe or the Hyundai Tiburon in other countries. And one thing this car doesn’t have is one of those handles above the passenger side window. And almost subconsciously everyone who sits in the passenger side seat puts their hands up to look for it. At this point lester always has a small grimace on his face cause it happens to everybody. Lester wants to buy this new Mercedes ya but still trying to find the practicality of buying an expensive car. As this discussion of practicality continued the issue shifted from buying the car to affording the car and eventually it being more a status symbol rather than a commuting vehicle.
Lemme get to the point.
We started to talk about how people judge other people. And here was my argument. How come people judge people on what the own and how much they earn. Y don’t people judge people on how they are as individuals?
Speaking through experience ive had the bad times and ive had the good times. But during the bad times I noticed that people for some reason turn on you. I’ve been blaming the country for this is cause most people in this country seem to mind other peoples business. I don’t know how it is else where. But im sure its not like this. Point being that I lost a lotta friends at a juncture of life where I needed them the most. At least I thought I did. They I start to think whether they were friends after all? Is a rude awakening what we need to know who are friends are?
True that once I started doing way better in life everyone was all praises of clint doin well and dishing complements left right and center. But to what point? The damage was done. Of course what ever happened lead to a very independent lifestyle which I have now but still the friends were linked to some good memories. But were they memories filled with deceit?
Lesters argument was that people expected me to do well. hence when I wasn’t performing up to their expectation they felt let down which in turn led to a whole bunch of bastardly behavior. A very valid point I may add. To some extent he was right. If you look at the “turn the other cheek” principle this is the best way to look at it. Expectation always leads to some kinda disappointment. People arnt really happy with what they already have, a good friend, someone u can count on. They need that successful winner sort of person. They judge people for what they are socially rather than who they are inside.
End of the day. Im glad I got that rude awakening. for 2 reasons. One that I don’t ever want to make friends with people who want to hang out with me for how much I make for a living. And 2, I will never ever judge someone personally for the bad times they’ve gone tru in their lives…
You see, i have a friend called lester. Currently, lester drives one of those Hyundai sports cars called the Hyundai coupe or the Hyundai Tiburon in other countries. And one thing this car doesn’t have is one of those handles above the passenger side window. And almost subconsciously everyone who sits in the passenger side seat puts their hands up to look for it. At this point lester always has a small grimace on his face cause it happens to everybody. Lester wants to buy this new Mercedes ya but still trying to find the practicality of buying an expensive car. As this discussion of practicality continued the issue shifted from buying the car to affording the car and eventually it being more a status symbol rather than a commuting vehicle.
Lemme get to the point.
We started to talk about how people judge other people. And here was my argument. How come people judge people on what the own and how much they earn. Y don’t people judge people on how they are as individuals?
Speaking through experience ive had the bad times and ive had the good times. But during the bad times I noticed that people for some reason turn on you. I’ve been blaming the country for this is cause most people in this country seem to mind other peoples business. I don’t know how it is else where. But im sure its not like this. Point being that I lost a lotta friends at a juncture of life where I needed them the most. At least I thought I did. They I start to think whether they were friends after all? Is a rude awakening what we need to know who are friends are?
True that once I started doing way better in life everyone was all praises of clint doin well and dishing complements left right and center. But to what point? The damage was done. Of course what ever happened lead to a very independent lifestyle which I have now but still the friends were linked to some good memories. But were they memories filled with deceit?
Lesters argument was that people expected me to do well. hence when I wasn’t performing up to their expectation they felt let down which in turn led to a whole bunch of bastardly behavior. A very valid point I may add. To some extent he was right. If you look at the “turn the other cheek” principle this is the best way to look at it. Expectation always leads to some kinda disappointment. People arnt really happy with what they already have, a good friend, someone u can count on. They need that successful winner sort of person. They judge people for what they are socially rather than who they are inside.
End of the day. Im glad I got that rude awakening. for 2 reasons. One that I don’t ever want to make friends with people who want to hang out with me for how much I make for a living. And 2, I will never ever judge someone personally for the bad times they’ve gone tru in their lives…
posted by Arroclint at 11:32 PM
7 comments:
You know.. something's not right... I mean not with your post.. but generally.. I mean, I had this thought too. It's weird.
i always said expectations are bad
that's life...
At least ur friend's car had its proper door handles. I once had this car, the door handles of which u had to search for on the car floor. once found it had to be fixed on its screw to get the thing to open :)
i guess the old saying's true - "In good times, your friends find you; in bad times, you find your friends"
I actually have a different take on this whole turning against thing. And it's because it hasn't happened to me (that would colour my argument) but to someone very close to me.
Although you're right, it is to do with expectations, but sometimes what also happens is that you know what that person's mistake is - in career or relationship or whatever it is that's his rough patch - but that person is just not willing to listen to you. You get it?
So sometimes people can see what mistakes that person has made and is going on making it. You try to tell him, but he doesn't listen. And then you say, what the hell, he deserves the rough patch. Waddya think?
Be careful...some Mercedeses don't have cup holders!
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